Breakup First Aid is For You If…
You’re going through a breakup, divorce, or you’ve been ghosted, and it feels like the ground beneath you has disappeared.
You’re trying to function, but inside, you’re barely holding it together.
You’re heartbroken and emotionally strung out on someone you can’t seem to get over.
You can’t stop replaying the conversations, the moments you shared, what they said, what you said, and what you wish you would have said or done.
You find yourself consumed by intense waves of sadness, grief, longing, fear, and anxiety, even when you’re doing everything you can to calm down.
You’re grieving not only the loss of the person, but the future you imagined.
Your mind is spiraling, and no matter how hard you try, you can’t stop thinking about them.
This loss doesn’t just hurt …it’s tearing open old abandonment wounds.
The pain feels disproportionate, or ancient.
At times, you oscillate between panic and numbness, overwhelmed one moment, disconnected the next.
If what you need right now is clarity, stability, and a grounded way to begin moving through this, Breakup First Aid is here for that.
This work is powerful. It’s stabilizing. And it gives you a way forward.
Heartbreak dismantles the inner architecture that shaped how you loved, trusted, and made sense of your world.Why This Hurts So Badly
Heartbreak isn’t just psychological.
It’s somatic, emotional, spiritual, and profoundly biochemical.
You’re not only suffering because of what you’re going through right now.
Your suffering is intensified because heartbreak activates everything inside you that was already tender, already unresolved, already waiting to be touched.
It activates:
- Unconscious childhood wounds
- Old abandonment fear.
- Unresolved emotional memories.
- Attachment trauma.
A neurochemical crash
Your system is being flooded with stress hormones like cortisol and norepinephrine.
You’re also experiencing a sudden drop in dopamine, oxytocin, and the bonding chemistry your system depended on.
Your body doesn’t experience this only as a breakup.
It also experiences it as loss, threat, and destabilization.
It can even awaken longing that’s been living in you for decades.
The parts of you that have never fully been seen, loved, or chosen.
This is why the pain can feel unbearable.
And this is exactly why you need something grounding, stabilizing, and structured, so you’re not left trying to navigate this alone.
My Lineages, Training,
and Why I Do This Work
My work has been shaped by the teachers and traditions that trained me, and by what I had to learn in order to survive and transform my own suffering.
At twenty, I began training with Horace Daukei, one of the last surviving traditional doctors of the Kiowa Tribe of Oklahoma. Horace transmitted portions of his healing gifts to me and guided me through the vision quest, a Native American healing practice that involves fasting alone in the mountains for four days and nights without food or water. I’ve returned to the Wichita Mountains for the vision quest twice a year, spring and fall, for decades.
In 2002, I began seventeen years of intensive training with Chinese Master Shifu Li Tai Liang in the Taoist internal martial arts of Xin Yi Quan, Baguazhang, Tai Chi, and Chi Gong.
In my mid-twenties, I found myself reenacting the traumas of my childhood and adolescence, forming attachments to women who were disinterested, unavailable, and a few who were quite abusive. The pain I felt in those years was excruciating. Yet it led me to develop a series of intensive meditation practices that activate the body and mind’s innate capacity to digest heartbreak, and other forms of trauma and adversity, along with the emotions tied to these experiences, transforming them into fuel for growth.
For over three and a half decades, I’ve worked with thousands of individuals to heal heartbreak, attachment wounds, emotional stagnation, repeating relational patterns, and physical pain connected to unresolved emotional memory. Breakup First Aid is the distilled essence of what I’ve learned, practiced, and taught across multiple decades.
Frequently Asked Questions
Yes.
While the circumstances differ, the internal experience often follows the same patterns, shock, longing, grief, emotional overwhelm, fixation, and the feeling that you’ve been knocked off your center.
Breakup First Aid supports a wide range of heartbreak and loss, including:
- breakup or separation
- divorce
- ghosting
- betrayal or infidelity
- unrequited love
- repeated rejection
- the loss of someone you love
- the loss of a dog or cat
- relationship patterns rooted in early emotional wounding
If your heart is hurting, this work will meet you where you are.
Breakup First Aid is designed for immediate support when the pain feels overwhelming. It helps stabilize your system, calm the emotional storms, and give you practical tools to get through the hardest moments.
Heal My Heartache goes much deeper. It’s for those who are ready to work through the roots of their attachment wounds, emotional patterns, and the deeper layers of loss and longing. It includes more extensive teachings, guided practices, and a broader framework for long-term healing and growth.
Heal My Heartache also includes individual one-on-one sessions with me. These sessions allow for personalized guidance and deeper work adapted to your specific history, patterns, and needs.
Some people begin with Breakup First Aid and later move into Heal My Heartache when they’re ready to go further. Others come in already prepared for deeper work and start with Heal My Heartache right away.
Both support healing, they simply meet you at different stages of the journey.
Most therapy helps you understand what you’ve been through and gives you a place to talk it out.
Most coaching focuses on mindset, behavior change, and practical strategies.
Both can be valuable.
But when you’re in the acute stage of heartbreak, insight alone often isn’t enough. You can understand exactly what’s happening and still feel completely wrecked inside.
Breakup First Aid works beneath the level of thought. It gives you intensive practices to stabilize, digest what you’re carrying, and move through the emotional shock, fixation, and overwhelm, so you can actually get your footing back and start moving forward again.
There isn’t one answer.
Some people feel noticeable relief quickly, within days or weeks, especially once they understand what’s happening inside them and begin working with the practices consistently. The obsessive looping starts to calm down. The emotional flooding eases. You get your footing back.
But if the heartbreak is tied to deeper attachment wounds, old emotional imprints, or long-standing relational patterns, the healing process takes longer. Not because you’re broken, but because those wounds run deep.
This work isn’t a quick fix. It’s a process of digestion and integration.
The more consistently you work with the practices, the faster things begin to shift.
And the deeper you go, the more you’re not just “getting over someone,” you’re rebuilding your internal foundation.
Because this work requires real time, presence, and follow-through, I do not offer refunds.
If you have questions before enrolling, I encourage you to reach out so we can determine whether Breakup First Aid is the right fit.
Contact Me
Call me at (332) 333-5155—or better yet, call and message to ensure I receive it. The work I do is highly personalized, so we’ll set up a time to talk, discuss your needs, and see if this is the right fit for you. If we choose to move forward, we’ll schedule your first session.
